An Excerpt from “Embrace The Process”
What to Pack: Psalms 103:3 – He forgives all my sin’s and heals all my diseases. Mark 11:25 – “But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins too.”
What to Destroy: Refusing to Forgive
Is it worth it? The answer is NO! When you decide that you will not forgive someone, and hold a grudge, you are doing more damage to yourself than you know. Trust me! It’s funny how people walk around holding a grudge against someone, when the person who the grudge is against has no idea that the person is even angry at all. The other person has moved on and continued with their life. At this point, all that you are hurting is yourself.
You are probably saying that forgiveness is not that easy. Yes, I got that! It’s not easy; however, it’s necessary for you. Your lack of forgiveness gives the other person total control over you. Now, I must admit, it took me quite a while to get to understand and accept this. I would hear people say it repeatedly, but it never registered. I couldn’t figure out how I was giving someone control over me when I no longer had contact with them. But suddenly, you find yourself walking around truly angry. Have you asked yourself why? It is likely that you feel that this person or that person hurt you, lied to you, or stole from you. The list could go on forever. It happened. But whatever the person did doesn’t really matter, because you’re still here. It didn’t kill you. It may have set you back for a moment, but it did not destroy you. In fact, you are destroying yourself because of your refusal to forgive.
So now, here you are in a program recovering from something like: crack, cocaine, alcohol, or some other substance. Whatever it may be, I call it an escape, because that is what it allows you to do. Remember this kind of escape is only temporary. For a more long-lasting peace, begin the process of forgiveness today.
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